Monday, November 24, 2008


Love, I find, is like singing. You can do enough to satisfy yourself, though it may not impress the neighbors as being very much. And interestingly, we never really stop loving someone; we just learn to try to live without them.

I’ve learnt it from one of my friends who helplessly observed his girl-friend got married to another man (who earns four times more than him). Being shattered with his broken heart and left alone to gather those pieces, he decided “enough is enough” and tried to kill himself. But thank God, we could save him at the last minute.

Sometimes I thought why everyone can’t have their first love as the only love, why? But it rarely does work. Someone always leaves, always!
Then I’ve discovered, love isn’t something to acknowledge how others care for us. Love is to acknowledge ourself that we are worthy to live smilingly, no matter what!

The success of love is in the loving—it’s not in the result of loving. Of course, it’s natural in love to want the best from the other person, but whether in turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.

I know, I know, you’ll say that when a heart breaks, it feels like frozen in the ladder of life—your emotion dries out—you feel that your world stops spinning and all of your pictures seem to fade black and white. And sadly, pleasure of love lasts for a moment, but the pain of love lasts a lifetime.

But suicide?

Maybe suicide can save us permanently from the pain but having pain isn't a temporary problem—isn't? What is suicide? Suicide is simply telling God, “No God, maybe you’re in recession but you can’t fire me—I’m quitting.”

But my friends, you are not the only person in the group who has faced this kind of ultra-loving experience. Let’s have a look:

Bill Gates’ first love, Stephanie Reichel, left him just after seven months of their relationship and married another man. She felt Gates was good for nothing. Now think, if driven by his broken heart, Bill Gates would go straight to the Seattle Tower and jump over from there? Think, how many windows of opportunities would pop up?

Charles Schulz asked his girlfriend to marry him but his girlfriend replied, “Do you think, your cartoonist profession is enough to give me what I want?” And it was that event which inspired Charles Schulz to grow up as the most widely syndicated cartoonist in the history, with work like Peanuts appearing in over 2,600 newspapers in 75 countries. Accordingly the book, “Where Are They Buried?” Charles Schulz’s income during his lifetime totaled more than $1.1 billion. He even gets enlisted amongst the “richest dead celebrity list” by Forbes magazine.

Even our own, Abhisekh Bachchan has faced more brutality when his fiancée Karishma Kapoor broke their engagement and married a “richie-goochie” man. Abhisekh’s fault? At that time, Abhisekh wasn’t enough successful to mark his own name in the industry. Did you ever feel: “Poor Abhisekh?” Come on, it was God’s master plan—maybe He thought “abhi-ash” would sound better than “abhi-kash.” You don’t have any idea of God’s karishma when he is gonna bring ashwarya in your life. Nyaah!

As per the girls are concern, there are Marie Curie, Joan Crawford and Carly S. Fiarina who have tasted the same pain too. It was Curie’s broken relationship that forced her to leave Poland. If she never left Poland and took admission to Paris University (including facing huge adversity), could she ever become the only person to win two Nobel Prizes in different science fields?

And maybe it was the ignorance from her boyfriend for being just a shipping-clerk, made Carly S. Fiorina determined and helped her to become the first women CEO for any blue-chip company.

So it happens, it happened before you, will happen after you but my friends don’t hold you back in the past and spend your memory with sugar-coated tears. Learn to live your life on the truth and keep your head high. Instead of thinking what you have lost; try thinking what you have that other person is losing.

Yes, tell me one thing what you have lost? You have lost the person whom you love most. Now think, what she(he) has lost? She(he) has lost the person who loves her(him) most, right?

Have you ever watched a crab on the shore crawling backward in search of the ocean, and missing? That’s the way our mind operates. All you need is already within you, only you must approach yourself with reverence and love. Your constantly flight from pain and search for pleasure is a sign of love you bear for yourself, so you should make love of yourself. Deny yourself nothing—glue your self-infinity and eternity and discover that you don’t need them, you are beyond.

Yes, don’t waste time thinking what you have missed rather invest that time in such way that someday that person starts thinking, “If I have had acted in EITHER way, if …”

As long as I know how to love

I know I will stay alive

I've got all my life to live

I've got all my love to give

And I'll survive

I will survive.
~ I Will Survive (Gloria Gaynor)

PS: This is a guest blog by one of my blogger friends named Roy - extremely inspiring. If you like this, then try visiting http://www.myspace.com/royarya for some more words of wisdom by him. Thanks Roy, for this awesome post, I am glad it’s on my blog and that too at this particular point of time.

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posted by Heart'n'Soul at 4:59 PM 27 comments

Thursday, November 13, 2008


Romantic Lives
... and some more

These are the genuine excuses that we all give and get when we must catch up with that one person who knows us the best. But how many times do we make a genuine effort in place of a genuine reason to sustain our bond with the people we feel closest to. Especially when one can grab a quick cell-phone chat while you're stuck in traffic or keep in touch via e-mail or instant messaging. Really, how much time does it take to send an sms or an email... just once a day???

It’s sad that despite all these means readily available, people slowly drift apart... even though our thoughts still go back to the same person time and again and the only remedy to our loneliness is their company.

There have been times when I have been too involved in certain things in my life that I have also given the same excuses and not been in touch. And when I came out of those phases, I found no one there to be by my side... and the 2-3 people who were still there, I knew I am never going to let go of them ever again.

I guess, it’s all about prioritizing... not people - but situations. We all have the limited 24 hours of the day... and it’s out of these 24 hours that we need to make time for everything we need, especially the people. This investment, I believe is the most important and the most rewarding too. To end, all I want to say is that friendship is not a god gifted relationship but it’s a relationship that we chose for ourselves... our extended family that we chose for ourselves and hence it’s up to us to keep it strong. Cuz it’s mutual and I need them as much as they need me... And so I shall "MAKE TIME" - I promise :)

PS: I would like to dedicate this to Kevin – my best friend ever – if god gave me an option to chose between making all my sorrows disappear and getting you back… I would choose to have you back, cuz that my friend, will make the biggest sorrow in my heart and the biggest void in my life vanish automatically. Happy Birthday Kev - May your soul rest in peace!

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posted by Heart'n'Soul at 5:33 PM 53 comments

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

The wor(L)d is instant

With the Gen-X genes growing rapidly in the human race, our terms of living and hence our definition of happiness seems to have been drastically upgraded. Yes you read it right - it’s been DRASTICALLY upgraded. And I say so because I believe that unlike an upgraded - "new and improved" version of most products... the definition that we live by today, certainly doesn’t fall in the "IMROVED" category by any means.

Oh! U must have got irritated by now cuz I still haven’t told you what I am talking about. I am sorry I offended your instant gratification cells.

Actually, this is exactly what I am talking about... no offence meant to any one but just my way of making the point - that we live in the world that literally thrives on the word "INSTANT".
Take up anything that’s a major part of a human beings day to day life and you will find it right there in your face.

- FOOD - Ah! I am hungry rite NOW... not an HOUR from now... no patience to go look for a healthier option so better do with the Junk. QUICK!
- Knowledge - Google it, what’s the point going to the library when it’s all on my desktop... RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW!!
- TV/Radio - gone are the days when one would move their butt around to tune and change the TV or Radio channel... now we have a remote control even for a car music player... And guess what, it’s fitted right on my steering wheel... WOOHA!!! No need even to move the hand now, forget about the butt!!!
- Communication - we call it email vs. snail mail... nah, SMS rules...
- Sex - whatever happened to romance and foreplay... it’s all been reduced to instant hit ...Wham Bam Thank you mam!!!

And that’s just not it, most people - just graduating, instantly want everything their parents and grandparents have ... I believe its ok till the time one aspires to have the same amount of money or lifestyle, or the assets... in fact its pretty natural. But it’s hard to digest when they want to compete with the same amount of experience and respect that the old bunch has worked a lifetime to acquire.

And I am not discounting myself from any of these useless and addictive ways of life... More often than not, even I Want it ALL - Right here right now (except for romance u know... I am just that eternal mush pot!!! Hard to agree Fali but u have always been rite about it while I have always been denying it :D)

All I wish is that the Gen-X (INCLUDING ME) can do away with our ways of overindulging in activities with immediate rewards, lest we succumb to the adverse effects of the associated delayed costs and end up regretting.

posted by Heart'n'Soul at 7:46 PM 32 comments