Monday, March 30, 2009

What was and will be!

Note: This is a guest post by Hussain, one of my really good friends and one of the best people I've ever met in life...
I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. -- Gilda Radner
There is always tomorrow, and life gives us another opportunity to do things right, but in case I am wrong, and today is all that is left to me, I would like to tell you I’m thankful for the acquaintance I had with you and for the words and emotions you have linked with me. As we leave and part on our ways, we take with us fond memories. We take with us lessons from life. We savour the taste of new relationships formed and throw away the burden of bonds that have faded away.

A few words for you…
When we first met,
The speculation in your eyes, I’ll never forget..
We learned to look at circumstances, all in the same mirror
Where our reflections collided and shimmered..

Be it the war of opinion and verity
Or the sweet togetherness of companionship and support’s beauty..
We travelled the same roads nevertheless
Now it’s time for us to digress..

Call it serendipity, call it fate
I wish for you to give your dreams wings, bring closure to the wait..
I gift you my gratitude for the kind words and acquaintance,
The golden rays of this sunset will bid you farewell and all success in abundance..

--- Hussain Arsiwalla
posted by Heart'n'Soul at 4:11 PM 10 comments

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Learning to Learn

Life chooses its course without asking us. The best we can do is move with it instead of trying to run in the opposite direction and hence make the most of it. Now Now - I'm not being preachy. Most of the times, even I cant do it. And in all honesty, acceptance is the worst of my capabilities and hence, so is letting go.

But at the same time, I can also assure that acceptance is in fact a rare treat you can give yourself, because unless n until we accept things as they are, we will not be able to make the right decisions in life. And more so, we will be responsible for hurting ourselves and making our own life miserable. And if you doubt it, I have a PhD in it - so might as well take my words for it.

Intent and will - is all that we need and all that is toughest to implement. And in case one of you has it in abundance, kindly pass it on to me, hehehe!

The trick is, to see things as they are and not with the highly optimistic rose tinted glasses or for that matter not even the highly pessimistic all black glasses. The trick is to ACCEPT - accept that we can only be in control of ourselves and not others. And it’s tougher than climbing the Everest for sure cuz our very own heart and emotions, weaken us every moment every day. Our ego fights, our brain fights, our heart fights... I - ME - MYSELF....

But the truth is the truth. Nothing can change it so why not just accept it as it is. Definitely saves a lot of time and makes life a lot easier and a lot happier. Why? You ask... cuz when you know you can’t change something, then you make peace with it and move on to the next step - deciding what to do next.

And in any case, why should one traumatize oneself... there are always better things in life waiting for us then sulking and feeling bad about things that we cant control... cuz there are things that we CAN control and that CAN make us happy. And most of all, the one thing that we can be in total control of, is our own self. Well, almost!!

If you would have asked me about a few months back, I wouldn’t have agreed or recommended this - but speaking out of my own experience and realization in life today- the power to make me happy, resides right inside me. And so does the power to make my life hell for no good reason.

It doesn’t feel good all the time, but it’s surely better than feeling sad all the time. There are still times when I sulk; when I want things my way and feel bad cuz I can’t have them. But it’s not a constant anymore. Cuz I am on my way to realizing, that truth is what it is... and noting we do can change it. We can only distort its meaning when we view it from different perspectives and live in an illusion - but the truth itself, doesn’t change.

The only person we can change is our self... the only thing we can control is our feelings and thoughts... the ONLY thing. And so, the only effort we should put in is making our self happy - whatever it takes. Even if it means unlearning what we have followed religiously all our life and learning something totally new and overcoming our deepest fears.

I have LEARNT the hard way, but I HAVE learnt that learning is not really changing… its just upgrading… becoming better for ones own self.

I'm learning to learn... and hopefully this will be another exam in my life that I will pass with flying colors. And once I am done, I would have learnt to value myself and my will more than just about anybody… I would have learnt to let go…

I really wish that I would have learnt finally….

And forget not that the earth delights to feel my feet - bare
And the winds long to play with my hair!!!

*** The quote above is adapted from Khalil Gibran

posted by Heart'n'Soul at 10:52 AM 27 comments