Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Learning to Learn
But at the same time, I can also assure that acceptance is in fact a rare treat you can give yourself, because unless n until we accept things as they are, we will not be able to make the right decisions in life. And more so, we will be responsible for hurting ourselves and making our own life miserable. And if you doubt it, I have a PhD in it - so might as well take my words for it.
Intent and will - is all that we need and all that is toughest to implement. And in case one of you has it in abundance, kindly pass it on to me, hehehe!
The trick is, to see things as they are and not with the highly optimistic rose tinted glasses or for that matter not even the highly pessimistic all black glasses. The trick is to ACCEPT - accept that we can only be in control of ourselves and not others. And it’s tougher than climbing the Everest for sure cuz our very own heart and emotions, weaken us every moment every day. Our ego fights, our brain fights, our heart fights... I - ME - MYSELF....
But the truth is the truth. Nothing can change it so why not just accept it as it is. Definitely saves a lot of time and makes life a lot easier and a lot happier. Why? You ask... cuz when you know you can’t change something, then you make peace with it and move on to the next step - deciding what to do next.
And in any case, why should one traumatize oneself... there are always better things in life waiting for us then sulking and feeling bad about things that we cant control... cuz there are things that we CAN control and that CAN make us happy. And most of all, the one thing that we can be in total control of, is our own self. Well, almost!!
If you would have asked me about a few months back, I wouldn’t have agreed or recommended this - but speaking out of my own experience and realization in life today- the power to make me happy, resides right inside me. And so does the power to make my life hell for no good reason.
It doesn’t feel good all the time, but it’s surely better than feeling sad all the time. There are still times when I sulk; when I want things my way and feel bad cuz I can’t have them. But it’s not a constant anymore. Cuz I am on my way to realizing, that truth is what it is... and noting we do can change it. We can only distort its meaning when we view it from different perspectives and live in an illusion - but the truth itself, doesn’t change.
The only person we can change is our self... the only thing we can control is our feelings and thoughts... the ONLY thing. And so, the only effort we should put in is making our self happy - whatever it takes. Even if it means unlearning what we have followed religiously all our life and learning something totally new and overcoming our deepest fears.
I have LEARNT the hard way, but I HAVE learnt that learning is not really changing… its just upgrading… becoming better for ones own self.
I'm learning to learn... and hopefully this will be another exam in my life that I will pass with flying colors. And once I am done, I would have learnt to value myself and my will more than just about anybody… I would have learnt to let go…
I really wish that I would have learnt finally….
And forget not that the earth delights to feel my feet - bare
And the winds long to play with my hair!!!
*** The quote above is adapted from Khalil Gibran