Heart'n'Soul

Thursday, November 13, 2008

MAKING TIME

Distance
Issues
Time
Job
Romantic Lives
... and some more

These are the genuine excuses that we all give and get when we must catch up with that one person who knows us the best. But how many times do we make a genuine effort in place of a genuine reason to sustain our bond with the people we feel closest to. Especially when one can grab a quick cell-phone chat while you're stuck in traffic or keep in touch via e-mail or instant messaging. Really, how much time does it take to send an sms or an email... just once a day???

It’s sad that despite all these means readily available, people slowly drift apart... even though our thoughts still go back to the same person time and again and the only remedy to our loneliness is their company.

There have been times when I have been too involved in certain things in my life that I have also given the same excuses and not been in touch. And when I came out of those phases, I found no one there to be by my side... and the 2-3 people who were still there, I knew I am never going to let go of them ever again.

I guess, it’s all about prioritizing... not people - but situations. We all have the limited 24 hours of the day... and it’s out of these 24 hours that we need to make time for everything we need, especially the people. This investment, I believe is the most important and the most rewarding too. To end, all I want to say is that friendship is not a god gifted relationship but it’s a relationship that we chose for ourselves... our extended family that we chose for ourselves and hence it’s up to us to keep it strong. Cuz it’s mutual and I need them as much as they need me... And so I shall "MAKE TIME" - I promise :)


PS: I would like to dedicate this to Kevin – my best friend ever – if god gave me an option to chose between making all my sorrows disappear and getting you back… I would choose to have you back, cuz that my friend, will make the biggest sorrow in my heart and the biggest void in my life vanish automatically. Happy Birthday Kev - May your soul rest in peace!

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posted by Heart'n'Soul at 5:33 PM

53 Comments:

yeah life is too much bzy for evryone,and ppl do giv excuses for not giving time

btw lucky kevin :D

November 13, 2008 at 6:20 PM  

Hi!

Nice post, dear. I loved the idea behind it.
May Kevin's soul rest in peace, Amen.

*Smiles*

Mehreen.

November 13, 2008 at 6:31 PM  

@Peter - i thnk thrs a misundrstndin cuz kev's my best frnd whos no more... so y is he lucky???

oh n btw - this time u suceed in being the 1st one :P

@Mehreen - thnks for ur wishes... glad u liked it

November 13, 2008 at 6:33 PM  

You got that right Div... its something for all of us to be reminded of now and then...

God bless his soul...

take care da...

November 13, 2008 at 6:39 PM  

Good One , Really like it readinng.
You know one thing, You articulate good , but whenever I read any of your post, I find there is a bit disparity between , conetxt and ur way of telling. you are bit aggresive in expressing... any way Nice one lady .... gr8u work

November 13, 2008 at 7:40 PM  

@arv - yeah, we need to remember this till we are :)

@DJ - srry but i don quiet agree, and well i don even get how u callin it agressive??? LOL

November 13, 2008 at 7:50 PM  

it's sad to hear... the realities of life.. everyone's busy..in addition complex, ego, jealousy..
Gone are gone.. all we have is the memories.. may his soul rest in peace.. and happy B'day from me too!

November 13, 2008 at 7:53 PM  

@Aneesh - thnks :)

November 13, 2008 at 8:03 PM  

hey babe!
ur blog is the best thing i have heard in a long time....
i have gotten in tpuch with my engg pals a few days bak...
spoke to them for close to 50 mins each.....
felt amazing....called them out of the blue....
cant think of ego or y they dint cal...:)
gd article girllllll
muaaaaaah
dips

November 13, 2008 at 8:23 PM  

@Dipti - m glad u liked it girl
its like tht only... frnds r the best thng to happn to us n whn we let go of the best thing thn we r being plain foolish

so better hold on to em thn run aftr thngs tht we don even have
haina?

November 13, 2008 at 8:27 PM  

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November 13, 2008 at 8:35 PM  

i know what it feels like
lost my close friend to a freak accident..and it made me realise how every moment is important. cal them up, talk to them when you can...tme doest stay still..sometimes there may not be a tomorrow..
and it did change me..now be it a traffic jam or a free hour in office..i always catch up with those who mean a lot to me!

November 13, 2008 at 8:56 PM  

@Hobo - is the * a ranking for my post...LOL

@Fali - i know u know n i know tht u know tht i know too...LOL

November 13, 2008 at 9:07 PM  

So very true ... So sorry for your friend. May his soul rest in peace..

take care,
adisha

November 13, 2008 at 9:19 PM  

Oh..I'm so sorry to hear this,Divu.
I don't want to show "pity" and crap..b'cos that'd be plain show..I'll be normal and say.."That's how life is"..

I sincerely wish Kevin's soul rests in peace..
*hugs*

November 13, 2008 at 11:04 PM  

straight frm heart post...

u know i hav recieved all these excuses most of the time...
at times I felt i am the most vella person on earth..it was like I Made another 24 hrs...but it was of no use...ppl made me feel like I am some fool...generally calling frends...

so ..friendship se..sort of vishwas sa utth gaya hai (not completely though)...I feel its just some sort of compatability...

neways...really nice post...I wish you keep your promise to your frends :)

God bless Kevin! :)

November 13, 2008 at 11:10 PM  

A touching post... RIP, Kevin.

---
"Friend! The word runs so deep!
Friend! The heart wakes from its sleep,
To behold this world, lit by a face.
Touched we have been, by Friendship's grace!"
---

Peace.

November 14, 2008 at 1:47 AM  

Ah ! Remembrances !

You captured it so well dear ! Like Arv said, we need to be reminded this often.

TC. RIP Kevin.

November 14, 2008 at 11:23 AM  

How right you are...
we forget about how important it is to communicate...
n yes there can be a thousand excuses which may all be lame...

November 14, 2008 at 4:37 PM  

my wishes for kevin:)

November 14, 2008 at 4:50 PM  

read it like twice or thrice, you said everything i always want to say and implement, thats nothing like complicated to stay in touch with people you care about.. unfortunately many of us dont realize it unless it is too late..

How you have been dear?
Hope all is well,
take good care :)

November 14, 2008 at 7:08 PM  

the 'warmness' jus radiates frm d post :)

November 14, 2008 at 7:23 PM  

i have stopped talking to a few people mainly cause,they don't seem to be interested in talking at all...

well true we have everything and yet so far apart...

November 14, 2008 at 10:07 PM  

I wish I could grant you this wish.

*hugs*

And this post was beautiful, tugging at all the right strings and invoking a myriad number of emotions..

Missed you.. Sowwie I was away...Exams and all that crap... :(

November 15, 2008 at 12:41 AM  

hey..
that was a very very good post..
yes..it was important too.
very nice.
take care
mip

November 15, 2008 at 10:23 AM  

Heartbreaking.

November 15, 2008 at 12:30 PM  

i so agree with u thr divi!!
its sad dat d bestest of our frenz drift away coz of reasons we cant even say are genuine!!
its only wen we loose em we realise what did we loose!!

November 16, 2008 at 1:15 AM  

ive always felt that we take relationships for granted. we tend to believe that our friends would be there when ever we need them. of course we are there whenever they need us. we know that we love our friends and we care for them. so why should they ever leave? but we quite often forget the importance of showing love, the importance of making our friends believe that "yes, i am there". We, at least I, have many times chosen to be silent when I could have taken the effort to tell my dear ones that i love them. maybe love is something which should be constantly expressed! the moment we feel that you are getting less doses, insecurity grasps us and we fall into the clutches of fear - fear of loosing dear ones. silence and distance also fuels the ability of human to forget and adjust. so maybe from lessons learned I might tell everyone of you: tell your loved ones that you love them, tell them now cos u never know if you could tell them tomorrow!

towards the end, your post was touching. let his soul rest in peace.

November 17, 2008 at 3:28 AM  

hey srry i didn't read this line "May your soul rest in peace!"

yeah it was a misunderstanding :((
srry again !

November 17, 2008 at 1:24 PM  

Hi DivKiran,

You know, in our heart, there are unique kinda valves which help blood to let in but it stop the blood to go outside.

Hope, we human could also have that kinda valves--friends could come in but never can't leave :)

But kya karein, we can't help it.

Aur yeah, I'm planning to write a guest post on your blog about that.

Cheers!

November 17, 2008 at 5:56 PM  

talkin of friends, its been a while, so I thought of droppin in a hi...WADDDDUP!! :D

Scribblers Inc.

November 17, 2008 at 8:23 PM  

Keep walking and holding friend's hands.............

November 17, 2008 at 9:12 PM  

@Adisha - thks adisha :)

@Aayushi - true, thts how life is ... hugs :)

@Prakhar - thnks ...it is really is from the heart :)

@Kartz - Freinds 0 mean evrythng :)

November 17, 2008 at 10:57 PM  

@Cindy - well yes we need to be reminded... it feels like pieces of our life keep fallin n we seem to forgett to pick em up

@Afaque - thnks for visitng.... well all excuses r not lame, just the we need yo "MAKE TIME" despite those... rite?

@Brocasarea - thnks a lot!!!

@Lena - me is fine, nov is just one of those months for me which has too m any memories... nothin else :)

@Deb - thnks da... nice to know u cud sense it

@Vishesh - sometimes, u need to break through to the other side of the wall... n find tht the person at the other side is not like it seems... keep tryin... stay around..., thy may need u sumtime

@Anindita - me too wishes the same Ani... its ok if u were away, hope ur exams went well

@MIP - thnks man, it indeed was IMPORTANAT too :)

@Echo - thnks for droppin by...

November 17, 2008 at 10:58 PM  

@Gunj - i lost the most precious thng in my life and well, thr was no reason either tht i cud agree to... and so, i'd rather grab wt frnds i have with both hands n let em know tht thy mean a lot... just like u do - MUAH!!!

@Sawan - thnks for droppin by... so true, the tomorrow mite just be a dream... so lts just do it today :)

@Peter - its ok, don be srrry... happnz

@Roy - sure man u r welcome, lemme know cuz i know i have some readers tht love ur posts :)

@Scribbler man- how u??? I KNOW ITS BEEN LIKE looooooooong.... i lost ur no.... since u have mine gimme a miss cal

@Kelly - thnks for droppin by n leavin these lovely lines here :)

November 17, 2008 at 10:58 PM  

hey so true...we tend to ignore people when theyr there and then when we are far apart we realise wev nearly lost them:-(

November 19, 2008 at 8:04 AM  

Na..
Its One STAR that shines brightly.
Claps !!!

November 20, 2008 at 11:27 AM  

God bless his soul!
He's blessed anyways to have a friend like you.

can't agree more with your post. very very true.

November 20, 2008 at 12:38 PM  

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November 20, 2008 at 1:54 PM  

yeah...frendz r d ppl v r least connected wth but connct to d most...

sorry...i hadnt been around 4 long...so cudnt chck d rest of ur post...

November 20, 2008 at 1:54 PM  

Lovely Post...thought provoking too...as always...keep it up :)
-

November 20, 2008 at 8:34 PM  

So what's knocking at your door?

Hey, let your friend that I'm thankful that he likes my post.

Btw, I hv finished the post. Let me know, how can I send it to you.

Cheers!

November 21, 2008 at 8:13 PM  

Its all about choices and some stay and few become invisible.

November 22, 2008 at 12:56 AM  

hai div..
updated
read my click and tell me it clicked or not..
waiting..

November 22, 2008 at 5:35 PM  

hey...whn is next update?? :)

November 23, 2008 at 1:50 PM  

I have been thinking on the same line..since this morning...Even I need to make time..

maybe when I forget this in future..I will read this post...again..and again..till its engraved deep with in..

November 23, 2008 at 10:56 PM  

Hi. I'm new here. But loved the post! A great Memoir for an undoubtedly Great friend. Kudos!

November 24, 2008 at 3:44 PM  

i hope u dont mind wat i say divi di...

do u c any similarity b/w us??? We tlkd and commentd so much in teh beginning....but now, the bond is diminishing :(

Thgh i knw u r the beshtesht di evr :)

Love ya....btw, the situation i said is trivial!
Dont mind!!


BTW< i need ur help...plss chck tis link:
http://meghnaspages.blogspot.com/2008/11/i-need-your-help.html

November 24, 2008 at 5:15 PM  

@Ekta - thnks for visitin, wish we cud save our losses :)

@Hobo - STAR??? WHERE??

@Usha - actully i was blessed to have him, n not anymore... he was the best :)

November 25, 2008 at 1:16 AM  

@Pooja - hey its ok, till the time i know u r fine, blog dosn matter :)

@Toonfactory - thnks! as always :)

@Roy - ur post is up n runnin man... thnks a lot

November 25, 2008 at 1:16 AM  

@Priya - ah! nice perspective

@MIP - saw it, read it, loved it - n i guess u know it already

@Prakhar - check it out its done :)

@Zubin - hey nice to see ya here ... whr u beeeeen

November 25, 2008 at 1:16 AM  

@Astuti - welcome here :) n glad u liked it

@Mehz - babaes i have not been comin online to blogspot tht often anymore... thts y... but i wrote mails to u, thought u were busy... u can always mail me at divkiran@gmail.com... so stay in touch

November 25, 2008 at 1:16 AM  

I feel a bit guilty cause there was a time when I used to be "busy" and that was an excuse for not being in touch,but not anymore.Wish everyone could realize this.

He's always with you sweetheart,and am sure he misses you just the same.Bless you both!Hugsss

November 26, 2008 at 4:30 PM  

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