Wednesday, June 25, 2008

That Thing Called Friendship

CAUTION: This is my longest post as yet so don complain later
When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.

YES YES please do…look at all my friends and judge me…for each one of them is special in his/her own way. And on this note I dedicate this post to the most important people in my life other than my family - MY FRIENDS - Thank you for making me who I am today.

Friendship, as I see it is a relationship that we chose for ourselves, and hence shows who we are. It’s the relationship where we chose to care and share our life with a certain someone, a relationship that is grounded in a concern on the part of each friend for the welfare of the other. It’s a relationship that is undoubtedly central to most of us and our lives.

I also feel that love is far below friendship because it love is a hierarchical relation, one with all the conditions. While friendship is freedom and equality and involves choice and volition. It is something you choose to do; you don’t do it out of a sense of obligation.

I...cuz of all the people I plan to mention in this blog, have learnt that a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest and most vulnerable. And they are the people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am so helpless and weak. You are my friend cuz I can trust my life with you, and vice versa.

Thanks for everything....cuz you are the ones who like me in spite of my faults and tell me the truth. Cuz you are the ones who support my decisions and tell me when I am being foolish. Cuz you laugh with me and share my grief. Cuz you argue with me and stimulate my mind. Cuz you are the ones I am not afraid of telling my secret wishes to or what is really on my mind. Cuz you are all I really need.

Cuz you are my support system. Cuz I can depend on you, feel safe and cared for. Cuz you make me see the silver lining when all I can see is the dark clouds. Cuz you offer me an ear to listen (ok here I am sorry a little cuz I do use the ear a little too much...muah to all of you) and a shoulder to cry on. Cuz you not only offer me emotional support but also acceptance in the real sense of the word. And so, with you I don’t need to compromise.

Kevin - thanks for everything. For as long as I live, you will live in my heart. Can’t possibly think of a childhood memory without you. And every time I was in distress, one hug was all it took, and I knew that no matter how bad the rest of the day could possibly be, that it wouldn't bother me... as I felt so much better already. You will always be in my heart and my mind. Miss you so much.

Neha - My bestest girl friend. Thanks for all the impulsive long drives, shopping trips, movies, chaat trips and guy advice. You are one person who made me truly happy under all circumstances. No matter what I was going through, no matter how stressed I am cuz of studies or work or life, you always make me smile. Here’s wishing you a happy married life and best of luck for mommy hood cuz with me around you are really going to have a spoilt kid to manage...Muah!!!

Nikhil - the best human being I know. You are such an inspiration...so selfless in everything you do, EVERYTHING. My strongest and yet the most silent support. I wouldn’t have been able to hold myself together when dad was in hospital if you were not standing by me...and I wouldn’t be an MBA and where I am today if you din help me sail through, then. And this is not the only time you have been there for me. I could not have been more blessed. Thank you GOD… so so so very much for sending this angel in my life.
Surbhi, Tanu, Natasha - thanks for making me a girl out of a tom boy...lol...you have been a part of the best years of my school life and life never got better than that. You all will always be special no matter what.

Arpit - Thanks for teaching me the importance of staying in touch with your friends and never giving up on them...Ever!

Sudeshna, Abhijit - Thanks for letting me be myself and making me realize who I am and I am good as I am. For giving me so many perspectives about love, life, people and this world. Thanks for being my shoulder to cry on for like the longest time ever. Thanks for helping me grow up. Love you both so much.

Sandy - thanks for being there n not judging me when that seemed the most logical as well as the most popular choice by one and all. Thanks for teaching me that being a friend is not always about being the closest or being the best friend. Thanks for making me realize that not everyone is the same and that not everyone is out there trying to prove me wrong. And that at times, there are people who care even though I may not think so.

Sid, HA and Dip Dip - thanks for so much love and trust and thanks for showing me that I was not wrong in believing, that believing in my idols and my faith is the right way to live my life and compromising with them is compromising with being myself. Of course, work will never be so much fun ever again in my life without my sweethearts. Love you all...muah muah muah!!!

Arjun – like we agreed on, thanks for making me realize that "I" (of all the ppl) can be patient too (rust me I did not know that about me)... thanks for teaching me that sometimes its better to let go...that friendship is not just about sharing everything but also about letting the other person not share when they don’t want and still be ok with it...that friendship is about not taking advantage even when you can.

Fali and Karan - Thank you for just being there :) and making my time at SIBM worth it. Karan, thanks for your selfless support anytime anywhere. Fali, thank you for all your "something to chew on" thoughts that made me think and adapt for good. Love you to sooooooo much n miss you even more.

Bijja, Kiran, Yogi - my three musketeers. I found each one of you while I was looking for someone else and I cant be more glad that I found you instead. So much fun, so much love, so much goodness...Its cuz of you three that I have started believing in existence of truly good people again!!! Thank u for all those all night parties, cribbing and gossiping sessions...of course thanks for the food as well...lol.

And after writing about all and SO MANY special people in my life, I suddenly wonder why and what do I crib so much about in life...lol. Thank you God for sending so many wonderful people to this world and then making them all a part of my life :)

To me, friendship occupies a very high place of importance in life and if I make a list of all the people who are important to me ( I say important because nothing or no one is inevitable) , most of them would be friends. And so - Thank you all you beautiful people...for staying by my side when I needed you...for being there to hold my hands when I was going through the worst and the best...for helping me become a better human being...for helping me discover who I am and most of all for letting me be who I am. THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH.

And so lets hum along
My favorite favorite song

Yaaron dosti badi hi haseen hai
Yeh na ho to kya phir, Bolo yeh zindgi hai
Koi to ho raajdaar, Be garaj tera ho yaar
Koi to ho raajdaaaaar

Teri har ke buraai pe, daante vo dost
Gam ki ho dhoop to, saaya bane tera vo dost
Naache bhi vo Teri khushi main

Yaaron dosti badi hi haseen hai
Yeh na ho to kya phir, Bolo yeh zindgi hai
Koi to ho raajdaar, Be garaj tera ho yaar
Koi to ho raajdaaaaar
posted by Heart'n'Soul at 3:31 PM


:)...Ok, this looks almost like the famous Oscar speech people make...:)...Hug

The best thing in this blog (besides my name) is the fact that after listing down so many of your friends...you thought why were you cribbing? And that got me thinking too...thanks for getting that message across. We really forget to be happy for what we have ...just dreaming or hoping for what we could have had...na?

June 25, 2008 at 5:18 PM  

@Blogeshna - since its oscar time...thnku thnku thnku...muah muah!!!

True...we do forgett in our daily worries that we have so many blessings in our lives. Wait for the nxt to nxt blog - its titled "Counting our Blessings".

And luv ya for such a quick read n comment...Muah!!!

June 25, 2008 at 5:42 PM  

nice and cute!:)

Scribblers Inc.

June 25, 2008 at 6:02 PM  

Cute it is.So many female friends that you have...Are any of them single and not-looking ? :D

June 25, 2008 at 9:39 PM  

Cute it is,indeed!!

Liked yr blg.
Do visit mines soon!

June 25, 2008 at 11:16 PM  

arey mera naam bhee hai
whaddup moti??
oh ps: blog updated

June 28, 2008 at 1:05 PM  

@Scrriblers Inc and Aayusih - Thanks for droppin by...usin mobile to surf net so will read on what you ahve to say soon :)

@Mishra - yes...infact only two of all the girls mentioned here are married...but y do u wn someone whos not lookin????

@Fali - ji aunty aapka naam bhi hai ;). Will read your blog once m home :)

June 29, 2008 at 5:12 PM  

read a lovely comment of yours on a blog,so hopped here.

true friends are those who are few and rare....

a sweet post...i hope your friends have read it too

June 30, 2008 at 6:05 PM  

oiiii good that u god real friends...i miss my boarding school frinds sooo much...i really miss them..damn i feel like cryiing LOL..i am lame

July 1, 2008 at 1:05 AM  

@Gazal...thnks for hoppin in :)
and yes, my frnz have read it but thy r just being lazy to comment...

@Samby...don be sad...not all the ppl i mentioned are with me rite now and thy r not with me all the time either...so be happy about the fact that you met some good people n made soe great friends.

July 1, 2008 at 10:15 AM  

WOW!!! Kevin would have been so proud of you for not cribbing for a change ;P

Recently I heard this song and for some reason every time I hear it, it I think bout the friendship between the two of you. So even though I know you know the song, I am posting the lyrics here with a little change.

Kabhi kabhi Divi zindagi mein yuhi koi apna lagta hai.
Kabhi kabhi Divi wo bichhar jaaye to ek sapna lagta hai.
Aise mei koi kaise apne aansuon ko behne se roke?
Aur kaise koi sochle everything's gonna be ok?

Kabhi kabhi to lage zindagi mein rahi naa khushi aur naa mazaa.
Kabhi kabhi to lage har din mushkil aur har pal ek sazaa.
Aise mein koi kaise mushkuraye, kaise hasde khush hoke?
Aur kaise koi soch de everything gonna be ok?

Soch jara jaaneja tujhko hum kitna chahte hai.
Rotein hai hum bhi aggar teri ankhon mein aansu aate hai.
Gaane to aata nahi hai magar phir bhi hum gaate hai.
Ke Divi maana kabhi-kabhi saare jahan mein andhera hota hai;
Lekin raat ke baad hi to sabera hota hai.

Kabhi kabhi Divi zindagi mei yuhi koi apna lagta hai.
Kabhi kabhi Divi wo bichhar jaaye to ek sapna lagta hai.
Hey Divi Hasde hasde hasde hasde hasde, hasde tu zara.
Nahi to bus thora thora thora thora thora, thora mushkura.

Tu khush hai to lage ke jahan mein chhaayi hai khushi.
Suraj nikle baadlon se aur baatein zindagi.
Suun to jara madhosh hawa tujhse kehne lagi.
Ke Divi wo jo bichhad-te hai ek na ek din phir mil jaate hai;
Divi jaane tu ya jaane na phool phir khil jaate hai.

Kabhi kabhi Divi zindagi mei yuhi koi apna lagta hai.
Kabhi kabhi Divi wo bichhar jaaye to ek sapna lagta hai.
Hey Divi Hasde hasde hasde hasde hasde, hasde tu zara.
Nahi to bus thora thora thora thora thora, thora mushkura.
Hey Divi Hasde hasde hasde hasde hasde, hasde tu zara.
Nahi to bus thora thora thora thora thora, thora mushkura.


July 1, 2008 at 11:42 AM  

This IS actually an Oscar speech ;)
Thanks for blogrolling me,babe.

I'll definitely be back to read this EPIC.lol

Tc till then!

PS-i blogrolled you as well.

July 1, 2008 at 12:13 PM  

And trust me I had tear in my eyes cuz to I totally know what you mean. Thanks girl...

@Aayusi -
Epic??? LOL

July 1, 2008 at 12:42 PM  

ty for stopping by my blog :)

** if I make a list of all the people who are important to me ( I say important because nothing or no one is inevitable) , most of them would be friends.

definitely! w.o. friends we r nothing.

u write brilliantly!


July 1, 2008 at 12:56 PM  

@Keshi - thanks a lot...but trust me you write better...brillianto I say!!!

July 1, 2008 at 1:04 PM  

You've been tagged.Check my blog for details

July 3, 2008 at 6:11 AM  

:) we all do.


July 3, 2008 at 8:03 AM  

hey hny.. sorry for missing this wonderful stuff earlier..

luv u so very much.. and not to mention u too are my life's best possession..


July 17, 2008 at 5:01 PM  

Thnku SURBHI...muahz muahz muahz

July 22, 2008 at 12:46 PM  

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